From the Parochial Vicar - August 5, 2018

August 6, 2018

From the Parochial Vicar - August 5, 2018

I am thankful for our youth. I am thankful for our young adults. I am thankful for our youth ministry and young adult ministry. When I arrived at Saint Mark Catholic Church one year ago, it was a Tuesday. Fr. John told Fr. Becker and me that there was Young Adult Group, and he wanted at least one of us there whenever they met. Also, we were told that we were going to be present Sunday night for Life Teen and Wednesday nights for Fraternus/Fidelis. Sunday, Monday, and Tuesday nights we tried to balance commissions’ meetings and Edge youth ministry for the middle school students. So, yes, Fr. John “volun-told” us to be present. Within one month, however, we shared in his commitment to accompany these young people. Sunday through Wednesday, the parish hall, school gym, and classrooms in the Kerin Center overflow with the parish’s youth: your children. And they all have one desire: to encounter the Lord.

I am thankful for our faith formation staff, youth ministers, Life Teen core team, and K-5 catechists. I am grateful to our school teachers, especially in the religion department, for daily catechizing our youth. I am ever grateful to the adults that give of their time, talent, and treasure to be sure that our youth ministry programs provide opportunities for our children to enter into a relationship with the Lord. Whether someone goes to public school, Catholic school, or homeschool, I have witnessed each one in our youth ministry programs form virtuous friendships together and encourage each other to remain faithful no matter where they will scatter after their youth nights and activities.

It has become clear to me and the other priests here that Saint Mark—a parish that forms intentional disciples—must be as present as possible to our youth and young adults as they navigate a world that has rejected Christ. In hearing confessions, being part of small group discussions, going on outings with our youth, and even meeting groups of our high schoolers at the local coffee shop, the kids share their struggles and burdens in ways that they have never shared with anyone else. I wish there was a magic formula to take away those afflictions. What youth ministry does, however, is instill the hope of Christ and the strength of community. Pope Francis, speaking to youth ministers in 2014, said that youth ministry is “much more than the promotion of a series of activities for young people. This ministry consists in walking with them, accompanying them personally in the complex and at times difficult contexts in which they are immersed. … Youth ministry is called to gather the questions of young people of today and, from them, to initiate a true and honest dialogue to bring Christ into their lives.”

As families are preparing to get back into the swing of school and other academic-year-activities, there has been plenty of discussion in the parish about the relationship between catechesis (faith formation) and youth ministry. While these two environments overlap in some respects, just learning principles and doctrine about Christ and his Church is not enough to initiate a relationship with Christ that is sustainable. In fact, Pope Emeritus Benedict XVI said in his Encyclical Deus Caritas Est (God Is Love), “Being Christian is not the result of an ethical choice or a lofty idea, but the encounter with an event, a person, which gives life a new horizon and a decisive direction.” An ethical choice is made logically from different data points so that one can say, “Aha! This is a good thing for myself and those around me.” But an encounter with the love of God is ongoing, rich, and lived in the wider community. “We cannot love what we do not know,” says St. Augustine; so, learning of Christ and his Church must be coupled with opportunities to grow in love of the event and person of Christ.

What can we do as a parish? First, we can all thank God for our young Church, present in our youth; thank God for their new ideas, fresh perspectives, and zealous hearts. Second, we can pray daily for our youth. We can pray that God protect and enlighten them. Third, we can affirm them. Tell them how good it is to see them participating at Mass and present at the parish. Fourth, we can reach out to the Faith Formation and Youth Ministry offices and ask, “With my gifts and talents, how can I help our young people to encounter Jesus by cooperating with youth ministry?”

The Church needs our youth. The Church needs our young people. The Church needs you and I to provide the opportunities for them to full heartedly pursue Jesus and his righteousness.

From the Pastor

From the Pastor - 32nd Sunday in Ordinary Time

By John Putnam • November 6, 2026
Wisdom is at the heart of today's readings. It is one of the seven gifts of the Holy Spirit and an essential gift for living the stewardship way of life. As Christian stewards, we should continually ask the Holy Spirit to deepen this gift within us. In today's Gospel, Jesus tells the parable of the 10 virgins waiting for the bridegroom. Five are wise, and five are foolish. The wise virgins prepare ahead of time, bringing enough oil to keep their lamps burning. The foolish ones fail to prepare and are caught off guard when the bridegroom arrives. Jesus concludes with this reminder: "Therefore, stay awake, for you know neither the day nor the hour." Stewardship helps us live with that same spirit of readiness. When we seek the Lord each day through prayer, the sacraments, and the faithful use of the gifts He has entrusted to us, we keep our hearts prepared to meet Him whenever He calls. That is the wisdom Christ desires for each of us. © Catholic Stewardship Conference, 2026 Pastoral Pondering - Rooting Out Anger Few things disturb the peace of a home, a parish, or a soul as quickly as anger. A sharp word at the dinner table, a resentful silence after Mass, a flash of irritation in traffic-each seems small in the moment, yet the Fathers of the Church warn us that anger is a deadly poison. St. John Cassian, the great monastic teacher whose writings shaped Western spirituality, dedicated an entire book of his Institutes to this vice. His counsel is bracing and practical for us today. Cassian insists that anger must be "utterly rooted out from the inmost corners of our soul." As long as it remains, it blinds the eye of the heart. We lose right judgment, the capacity for true counsel, and even the ability to pray. "The wrath of man worketh not the righteousness of God" (James 1:20). Whether the provocation seems just or unjust makes little difference: anger covers the eyes of the soul like a plate of gold or lead- the value of the metal does not restore sight. He rejects the common excuse that we may be angry with those who do wrong, or that Scripture's language of God's "anger" justifies our own passion. God is free from all disturbance; the biblical language of divine anger is metaphorical, pointing to His just judgment, not to a human emotion we may imitate. To use it as permission for our own resentment is, Cassian says, to draw from the Scriptures an occasion of sin rather than a remedy of holiness. There is, however, one legitimate use of the energy of anger: we may and should be indignant against the evil thoughts and disordered desires that rise within our own hearts. When we are ashamed of what we would never say or do before others, yet find it stirring inside, we are to rage against that disorder, trembling before the all-seeing eye of God. In this sense the psalmist's "Be angry and sin not" (Psalm 4:4) and St. Paul's citation of it (Ephesians 4:26) are understood: be angry with your own faults, lest the Sun of Righteousness set upon a darkened mind and the devil be given place. Cassian's remedies are simple and severe. First, make a firm resolution never to be angry at all-neither for good reasons nor bad. The moment the passion enters, discernment is lost and the soul can no longer be a temple of the Holy Spirit. Second, never attempt to pray while angry; such prayer is obstinate rebellion. Third, keep daily before your eyes the uncertainty of life and the certainty of judgment. All our other efforts- Mass, fasting, works of charity- profit nothing if anger and hatred alone bring us to eternal punishment. Practically, this means catching the first interior movement of irritation and turning it at once into sorrow for our own impatience. It means refusing to nurse the grievance past sunset, seeking reconciliation before the next Holy Communion, and enlarging the heart with patience so that the "waves of anger" are received and dissipated rather than confined and intensified. Peace, Cassian reminds us, does not depend on the conduct of others; it lies in our own control. In the confessional and in the daily struggle of parish life, I see how often this vice wounds families and friendships. Let us ask the Lord, who is meek and humble of heart, to give us the grace to root it out. May the peace of Christ, which surpasses all understanding, guard our hearts and our parish. In other news, due to an unexpected leave, I have been appointed as Vicar General and Chancellor of the Diocese of Charlotte by Bishop Martin. While this appointment is expected to be temporary, during the interim, it will make my ability to take appointments rather limited. Please be patient with the office staff as they try to accommodate those needs along with my additional responsibilities.

From the Pastor - All Saints Day

By John Putnam • October 30, 2026
On this Solemnity of All Saints, we have the profound joy of celebrating our brothers and sisters in Christ, the saints. This is an especially meaningful feast for us as Christian stewards. At Baptism, each of us receives the call to holiness and discipleship. In other words, we are all called to become saints. Holiness is not reserved for a select few. It is God's desire for every one of His children. The stewardship way of life helps us answer that call each day. In today's Gospel from Matthew, Jesus gives us the Beatitudes. They reveal the qualities that mark the lives of His disciples and point us toward authentic holiness. As we continue striving to live as faithful stewards, the Beatitudes provide a faithful measure of our growth in Christ. The "blessed" that Jesus describes are not different categories of people who make it to heaven. Rather, they reveal the character of those who belong to Him - the poor in spirit, the merciful, the pure of heart, the peacemakers, and all who remain faithful in the midst of trials. None of us can live this way on our own. But as beloved children of God, we receive the grace we need through prayer, the sacraments, and a life centered on Christ. May the example of the saints inspire us to persevere in our own call to holiness, trusting that one day we will join them in the everlasting joy of heaven. © Catholic Stewardship Conference, 2026 Pastoral Pondering October brought us the Church's renewed attention to mental health. Pope Leo XIV has asked us this month to pray that our communities become places where those who carry unseen burdens find welcome, dignity, and hope- not judgment or silence. Many of those burdens are carried by women and girls. Some have lived through abuse, assault, or trauma that few around them even know about. Recent headlines, including those from Cornell University, have reminded the whole country how widespread these wounds are and how alone many survivors feel. Regardless of the outcome and veracity of the Cornell case, these types of cases exist closer to home. Women in our own parish and community often suffer quietly, unsure where to turn or whether anyone will truly understand. There is help, and there is hope. Healed and Restored, the local Catholic ministry founded by our own parishioner Elza Spaedy, exists precisely for this purpose. Through counseling, workshops, spiritual mentoring, retreats, and a supportive community, it walks with women and girls who have experienced abuse, assault, domestic violence, trafficking, or other trauma. Rooted in faith, it helps them encounter the Divine Physician who alone can restore what has been broken and discover that their wounds do not define them. Many of the women who have walked this path have found real freedom and a renewed sense of their dignity as daughters of God. If you are carrying a wound like this, or if you know someone who is, I encourage you to reach out. Information is available at healedandrestored.org. And if you simply want to stand with those who are hurting, please keep them in your prayers. Sometimes the greatest gift we can offer is to notice, to listen without fear, and to point someone toward the healing Christ offers. May the Lord who binds up the brokenhearted make our parish a place of true restoration.