From the Pastor - 22nd Sunday in Ordinary Time
Let’s be honest. If we are striving to live the stewardship way of life, it’s not going to be easy. Dying to self and living for Christ and others is tough. It’s the work of a lifetime. But in the end, it’s the only work that really matters and the only life that truly satisfies.
Our Gospel passage, from Matthew, reflects this challenging reality. Jesus tells His disciples, “Whoever wishes to come after me must deny himself, take up his cross and follow me.” This sounds harsh. Why would anyone want to do this?
Our Lord has the answer, of course. “Whoever wishes to save his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life for my sake will find it.”
It’s all about love. Jesus loved (and loves) us totally, giving us all of Himself on the Cross, in His Word, and in the Sacraments, especially the Eucharist.
And so, we must choose — love of self, or love of God and others — which is tough, but fulfilling and leads to the eternal reward of heaven. Jesus promises that He “will come with his angels in his Father’s glory and then he will repay all according to his conduct.”
Let us make the tough choice to lose our life for Christ’s sake in grateful response to His love. Honestly, what better life could there be? © Catholic Stewardship Consultants, 2023
Pastoral Pondering
In trying to address topics related to the Eucharist, I thought it would be a good time to touch on marriage and the Eucharist; especially in dealing with irregular marriages that impact the reception of Communion and Penance.
First, it is important to affirm that marriage is a great good and is important to the life of the Church! This is not simply a Church teaching but one that is rooted in revealed Divine law both in Genesis 2:24 and by the Lord Jesus Himself in Matthew 19:6.
“Therefore, a man leaves his father and his mother and cleaves to his wife, and they become one flesh.”
Second, the Church, in being obedient to Christ, upholds marriage as a permanent, faithful and fruitful covenant relationship in which the spouses form a partnership of the whole of life (consortium totius vitae). As paragraph 1614 of the Catechism states:
“In his preaching Jesus unequivocally taught the original meaning of the union of man and woman as the Creator willed it from the beginning: permission given by Moses to divorce one’s wife was a concession to the hardness of hearts. The matrimonial union of man and woman is indissoluble: God himself has determined it: “what therefore God has joined together, let no man put asunder.”
Considering this teaching, the Church has been clear that no authority on earth can break an indissoluble marriage. In our fallen world, this may seem unreasonable, but we do trust in the grace of the sacrament (which exists between a baptized man and a baptized woman). Spousal love is sacrificial love. For this reason, marriage is recognized as an earthly example of Christ’s love for His bride, the Church.
What then do we do when marriages fail? In many, if not most, places in the world today, couples have recourse to civil divorce, even though such recourse is not recognized by the supreme authority of the Church. In these cases, the situation and circumstances of everyone must be considered. For centuries and even now, the Church has recognized that situations arise when spouses, for any number of reasons, can no longer live together. They continue to be husband and wife, but without the common life that is normal for marriage. In a sense, this is analogous to the situation of those who have had recourse to civil divorce. Assuming that they remain in the state of grace, living separately and singly does not separate one from the sacramental life of the Church.
As sometimes happens, often out of a lack of understanding or knowledge, following a civil divorce it happens that some attempt a subsequent marital union. Turning back to the teaching of Jesus in Mark 10:11-12, “Whoever divorces his wife and marries another, commits adultery against her; and if she divorces her husband and marries another, she commits adultery.” The Catechism paragraph 1650 lays this out as follows:
[T]he Church maintains that a new union cannot be recognized as valid, if the first marriage was. If the divorced are remarried civilly, they find themselves in a situation that objectively contravenes God’s law. Consequently, they cannot receive Eucharistic communion as long as this situation persists. For the same reason, they cannot exercise certain ecclesial responsibilities. Reconciliation through the sacrament of Penance can be granted only to those who have repented for having violated the sign of the covenant and of fidelity to Christ, and who are committed to living in complete continence.
The Catechism goes on to make clear that, while full participation in the Church’s sacramental life may not be possible, the Church does not consider these individuals excommunicated. They are not separated from the Church and are called to participate in the Church’s life to the extent that they are able, including listening to God’s Word, attending the Holy Sacrifice of the Mass and persevere in performing the spiritual and corporal works of mercy as well as bringing up their children in the Faith (See Familiaris Consortio, 84 & CCC, 1650).
Those who find themselves in this situation also have recourse to the Tribunals of the Church and can avail themselves of the various processes of examining whether the first union was indeed marriage as marriage is understood by the Church. In those cases where the evidence proves that not to be the case, the parties are then allowed to contract marriage anew. If you or someone you know needs the ministry of the Tribunal, please reach out to one of the priests or deacon