From the Pastor – Feast of the Holy Family

January 1, 2018

From the Pastor – Feast of the Holy Family 2017

The primary purpose of The Feast of the Holy Family is to present the Holy Family as a model for Christian families.

In Italy there is a saying, “La famiglia é tutto,” which means, “the family is everything.” Our Holy Father Pope Francis has made families one of the focal points of his papacy. He organized a conference on families in 2015. Speaking to the gathered families, he said, “You cannot have a family without dreams. I am very fond of dreams in families. For nine months, every mother and father dream about their baby. They dream about what kind of child he or she will be… You can’t have a family without dreams. Once a family loses the ability to dream, children do not grow, love does not grow, life shrivels up and dies. So I ask you each evening, when you make your examination of conscience, to also ask yourselves this question: Today did I dream about my children’s future? Today did I dream about the love of my husband, my wife? Did I dream about my parents and grandparents who have gone before me?”

All of today’s readings have to do with families and family life. The reading from Sirach, our First Reading, emphasized the Fourth Commandment, “Honor thy father and mother.” We are commanded to respect and love our parents. However, it is a two-way street. The Gospel Reading speaks of the development of Jesus, and that should inspire parents to understand that our prayers are the same as the prayers of Joseph and Mary — that our children will become strong in spirit and filled with wisdom.

Pastoral Pondering

During the weeks before Christmas the other priests and high heard hundreds of first Confessions along with all of the other confessions that we hear on a weekly basis. One of the things that we started doing this year with the children seeking first reconciliation and first Communion was that the parents right a letter to me indicating the desire on their part for their children to receive the sacraments, but also, a commitment on their part to do what is necessary to provide their children with a truly Catholic formation. This commitment involves getting their children to Mass on Sundays and holy days and providing them opportunities for prayer and spiritual growth. The following admonition from the Rite of Baptism for Children encapsulates what’s expected of parents when they present a child for baptism:

“On your part [parents], you must make it your constant care to bring them up in the practice of the faith. See that the divine life which God gives them is kept safe from the poison of sin, to grow always stronger in their hearts.”

Parents today have a hard task. We live in a world that is hostile to the faith on many levels. Certainly, this is true for the majority of public universities and colleges, but, sadly, that attitude can also be found in schools of all levels and even in some that bear the name Catholic. Yet, in the midst of all of this, parents are not without spiritual support if they avail themselves of it.

The faith when it is faithfully lived at home and actively lived outside the home, is a potent antidote to the “spirit of this world.” Failing to provide that for our children is spiritually abusive because it places them on the battleground without providing them with the weapons they need to defend themselves and survive. It is heartbreaking, for example, to have a second-grader, confess that he or she missed Mass because mom and dad are too busy to take them. This is the minimum that should be expected of Catholic parents.

The minimum, of course, is not going to be enough is this time in history, however. The faith must be lived at home. It is not enough to send children to faith formation or Catholic school and expect them to simply absorb the faith as by osmosis. It simply does not work that way. Children learn from what the adults in their lives say and do. Baptism is not magic, and living the Christian life is hard work. But it is a labor of love and if done with faith and attention will bear great fruit.

If we want our families to be holy, we have to be holy. We can only be holy, when we do whatever He tells us. Happy New Year!

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